So.... we are taking a break.
I think this is the only way we can change anything. We can't fix anything if we are together and every time we talk we end up arguing, so this is the best way. I've run out of ideas and options. I'm staying at the house with the kids (of course) and he's staying with his Mom. He's still coming over to see the kids, but leaving and at night and he knows not to bother if it's after 7:30 because they will be going to bed.
Last night was the first night and let me tell you, it was so peaceful and calm. The kids went to bed no problem and I was able to get some things done. Who knows what the rest of the week will bring, we will just have to wait and see. Right now this is suppose to last a few weeks, but he's already asking to come back. It's not going to work if it's just a night.
Here's to keeping our heads up and moving on and hoping for great outcomes.
***Update*** This went on for a week and we were able to really talk and get things straightened out. This new job just made things so much worse! After that week was over we were SO much better and are doing amazing now!